Happenings from 2001 to 2006

I moved into my flat, which was registered under my mother and myself, in year 2001. Things were not very good as my mother was very quarrelsome and not happy with me at all. We quarrelled almost every other day and I decided to sell the flat and live on my own. Since then, i have not been talking to my mother (M) for 2 to 3 years. By the way, my whole family, including my girlfriend then (now my wife) knows about this issue and also the issue of selling flat, when it is due in 2 1/2 years (the flat was a resale flat).

During that period, my brother had marital problems and was struggling to handle his problems. By then, it was time to sell the flat. I, being considerate, witnessed that my Brother was going through such difficult time and therefore decided to postpone my plan to a few more years.

Things in fact changed better and i was on a slight talking term with my M. However, things started again when I was preparing my marriage. She insisted on having a big number of guests while I explained that I was only holding a church wedding and could not afford so many guests. She was also furious about the "buffet food" that i ordered, claiming that the food were not nice.

I endured her nonsense and eventually, went ahead with my plans. I eventually got married and so after, my baby girl was born in Oct 2005. Well, u all may say that got a baby liao, things will improve. But i tell you, this is not so.

I remembered that when my baby girl was having her first month celebration, I, being kind enough, seeked her advice in selecting the buffet food..ya...its buffet food again. She again wanted some kind of food that are not within my budget and therefore kicked a fuss out of it. In the end, during my girl full month celebration, she disappeared out of the house, leaving me answering the queries from my relatives and friends.

That's not more, she does not feel remorseful in this issue!!

When my girl was hospitalised for fever when she was 2 months old, my wife and me were in the hospital and were worried sick. My parents and brother did not even come and visit her nor ask anything abt her situation. I was very sad...how come i have such family members who does not even wish to concern their very grandchild...

That's not all my friends.....I had signed up a photo shot package when i graduated from my Bachelor course. Initially, my M agreed to go for a photo shot but later changed her mind of not doing so, just because of one incident. The incident is over a meal. I cooked a soup and she does not like it. I merely rebuked her saying "if not nice, cook urself". She got angried and there goes my long awaited family portrait. This happened in May 2006.

Since then, my relationship with my M worsened and we really did not talk for months....